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Half Term News…

This is a totally quickie, an apology of my absence while its half term. I’m writing this with one hand while feeding coco pops to Oscar in the other (mum multitasking if ever I’ve seen it). Over the last few days I thought it would be fun to buy a bunk bed and put it up with a teenager, an 8 year old and a toddler. Piece of advice – never ever be that stupid. It’s all up now and il be writing about Oscars room makeover soon. We have a couple of busy days ahead with Kid Zania today and the Natural History Museum Thursday which will both have dedicated posts of their own at some point in the next week! I was so excited about being on Huff Posts blogging network see my first post here. Hollie is also going to joining me on my blog once a month with a post from herself on her views of the world. Watch out for that she’s got lots to say that one. I’m working hard …

Exploring Emotions

When do you start letting your toddler know that actually launching himself into some kind of pirate fist clenching stance because the other kid wants the ball he’s holding isn’t ok ? For a start how do you even begin to explain why he just did that ? Well my initial response was to say “Oh someones been watching too much Swashbuckle”. In reality I just wanted the ground to swallow me up, the other little boy ran off scared for his own life, poor little guy. It really made me think, do I need to be more firm with him? Should I be telling him off? I just don’t think that’s my style with Oscar. I’ve spent a lot of time writing about how parenting a teenager has changed me and I think this change is now apparent in how I’m going about things with Oscar. At the moment he’s exploring emotions, hes understanding that if he takes something off someone or pushes them it creates a reaction or an emotion. I don’t think at …

Its Not All That Bad

My count to ten post had such a good response that I realised lots of parents are going though the same thing or even if they have children much smaller they really are dreading those teenage years. Theres so much negativity attached to those years that I wanted to share with you our best bits and to tell you not to worry, because it’s not all that bad. In fact its pretty fun. The Laughs, the slang and phrases Hollie comes out with are hilarious. I nearly wet myself when she said one of her friends was having a “side ting”. All teenagers use some sort of foreign language that people over 30 just do not understand. She’s got banter, especially with Sam, I’m a bit slow and don’t get jokes which means while those two are sat laughing at something, I end up laughing at them. We can be silly, whether thats dancing around the dining room to some terrible music or glittering ourselfs up while we are at festivals. Life is better when …

Bucklebury Farm Park

Children’s Farms, smelly, muddy, noisy – all the reasons you should be visiting with your children. Venturing into the world of farming can be an exciting and educational place for little explorers. Opening up their eyes to a sensory paradise of textures, noises and smells even if they are a little whiffy. Observing wildlife in its natural habitat is about as exciting as it gets for me, I’m an animal lover there’s no hiding away from that, the cute piggys  and the naughty goats get me every time. I could spend hours wandering around a farm feeding the animals. From a personal prospective I really want my children to know what we eat was once a living creature, that the milk they drink is from a real cow and I want them to understand that corn and crops grow in fields to make the cereal they eat at breakfast. Farms are not only an important part of british heritage but all over the world, encouraging them to understand what fruit grows in which country and even …

The Phone Call No Parent Ever Wants 

Back in October Hollie was hit by a car, a pure accident, nobody was to blame not the driver or Hollie,  it was if you like, a series of unfortunate events that day. You know those days, where you seem to have lots of choices and they lead to something horrible. Well we won’t forget the 29th October in a hurry. ” Hello is that Hollies mum” I answered yes and wondered what was going on as it was Hollies phone that had called me “now I don’t want you to panic but Hollie has been hit by a car, she’s awake and she needs you”( it was the bus driver). I remember vividly standing at the shoe cupboard trying to take in what she was saying and where it had happened, I was looking at the shoes and just couldn’t find a pair, I was trying to figure out if this was some sort of joke because Hollie knows how to cross a road, she’s  responsible and sensible, surely this was all wrong. It wasn’t. …

Count to Ten…

One of the hardest things about parenting isn’t the sleepless nights, well I mean, it is in the baby / toddler stage as I’m there now with Oscar, but long-term whats harder than that is them turning into a young adult. Curfews, Friends, School… nobody tells you just how difficult being in charge of all that is, it’s an emotional roller coaster that’s for sure. There have been enough tears in this house to last a lifetime over attitude and the fear of doing it all wrong. I can only speak from my own experience and I know Hollie isn’t the easiest of Teenagers,  she’s very strong-willed, argumentative and sometimes an absolute idiot ! We have very quickly learned that using the “I told you so” method just doesnt work, if anything it makes her more determined to make it work. I think we forget so easily that the need for adventure and to explore is so critical at this age, they are stepping out, away from the parental bubble we have wrapped them up …

How An Earth did I End Up With A Baby Model  ? 

  *Edited* As we are now into spring/summer 16, the fresh new clothing lines are pretty exciting especially in our house, not because I’m some fashionista who loves the lastest fashions but because our little Oscars face is about to be spread across the country. Back in September I joined Oscar to an agency, it was one of Sam’s bosses wife’s agency so I though ahhhh why not, not thinking much would come of it. A couple of weeks later, I had a phone call asking if I could take him along to a casting in London for M&S, I was well up for an adventure so off we went not really knowing what to expect. I walked into the studio and immediately Oscar was beaming, I passed him over to a lovely lady who sat with him and played with him while the photographer snapped away. It was so nice to see him so happy and having so much fun. I left feeling proud and of the attitude that, well if nothing came of …

Lets Go Outside…

When Sam brought me my National trust membership as wedding present, a rather accidental spontaneous wedding present I had all good intentions of using it. Well, that was in September and today I’ve finally put it to use. About 6 miles down the road is a lovely little place called Greys Court, filled with secret gardens and rolling green rather icy hills. My first stop was of course the coffee shop, I could smell it as soon as I got out the car my nose led me straight to it, that and a massive slice of victoria sponge cake. The day was off to a good start. I also wanted to test out Oscars new Regatta all in one, I was constantly removing stains from his clothing as since he’s got into Peppa pig those muddy puddles are even more inviting. So I got onto Amazon had a little look and came across this little beauty see here. I’m not a huge fan of character clothing, I never have been with any of my children, even Hollie …

I’m Back …

To be honest I was never here in the first place, but when I was it felt good and I enjoyed keeping a virtual diary. What put me off was the amount of bloggers, why would I be any different or rather how could I be different it was overwhelming to say the least. I’ve realised recently it wasn’t about trying to be different or fit in with the rest, its purely for me to be creative, to use what brain cells I have left and maybe inspire others to put words to post as it’s actually quite therapeutic.  So whats new since forever ? …. Marriage the big M, I’m now a wife and  I don’t feel any different in myself im still Gemma, I didn’t change into an ironing goddess over night much to Sams disappointment. The whole concept of wedding planning daunted me but by the end of it I was loving it. It was such an amazing day filled with love, it was everything I wanted it to be and more. …

So not a ” Dance Mum”

So for many years Hollie has Danced.. Festivals, Pantos, night after night of classes.  As a mum you go with it, I think it’s important for children to have a hobbie. Hollie showed an interest from young age and clearly lived and breathed it for many years. Until one day I had had enough. The constant pressure of being somewhere ontime and basically being told when we could have holidays. My bank account was being drained, I had holes in my leggings but I still somehow found dancing fees. The dance mums… People who live their dreams through their children. Pushy parents as they are called, not all of them are really that bad they just want their children to achieve goals and do their best …. But at what cost ? I started to question when was the last time Hollie rode a bike ? When did she last go to a friends party on a Saturday ? Why are we not going for a mini break this weekend? It’s then I realised Dancing …