I wrote this post a few days ago and since then I’ve had a few “down in the dumps” days, but I’ve given myself a kick up the bum as always, had a read of my own thoughts and now I’m hoping it might find you when you need a little pick me up or a reminder that it’s really all ok.
Finding Happiness isn’t an easy feat, but I truly believe that the first step in becoming a happier person is to look in the mirror, accept what you see and love yourself even the imperfections. Those imperfections are there because nobody’s perfect and that’s what makes you, you. In my case a complete gypsy, who has the attention span of a nat and could do with losing a few pounds !!
I also believe that accepting your mistakes and why you’ve made them puts you on a road of self discovery. You can look back connect the dots and understand why your here living in this moment right now. It might not be a great moment, you might not be proud of it or it might be the best moment of your life but somehow you’ve found yourself here and whether you like it or not accepting that this is where you are right now is key to being able to move forward and do great things.
Personally I don’t regret anything in life, ok maybe all the tubs of Ice cream I ate in one go over the years but don’t judge me for those, I just see the mistakes Ive made as life lessons, things I reflect over when I’m feeling either a little to ahead of myself or a little down in the dumps. I like to remind myself how I got here , where I don’t want to go or where I want to be heading. I went through a period of my life where the word grateful didn’t really exist in my vocabulary unless it was for a babysitter on a Saturday night, I was also selfish, immature and unrealistic, actually I’m still unrealistic and that is most definitely one of my imperfections but I’m dealing with it ! I guess everyone can be selfish in some ways even if it’s hogging both sides of the bed, but grateful is something everyone can be if they want to be. It took me a long time to be truly grateful but once I found it, it really changed me.
Most people have a moment in life that’s life changing, a defining moment; it might happen at 22 or it might happen at 60 but it will happen, it could be finding your sole mate, leaving a job, losing a loved one or even taking a trip abroad but finding you who are first will help you find happiness in life. I’m not saying it’s this magical moment where all of a sudden you are a completely different person and life is some bed of roses, but what I am saying is that somehow you change your mindset and become a better person by accepting life is how you make it.
Positivity is also a big factor for your happiness, the more you create positive thoughts the more you manifest positive outcomes. Shit things will still happen, you will still get bad days but it’s how you deal with them that will make things seem better. It’s all about your frame of mind and outlook on life, the world isnt against you it’s you who is most probably against yourself. Give yourself a break, love what you see, accept that you will have great days as well as bad days but remember those bad days are never as bad as they seem the day after.
Your a wonderful human, happiness is out there for everyone it really is, you’ve just got to believe in yourself and more importantly love what you see in the mirror.